Toxic Relationships and Their Effects on New Ones

Negative bias is a phenomenon that explains that humans prioritize negative experiences vs. positive or neutral experiences. So it is no surprise why we are more inclined to prevent bad experiences than we are to go after new ones. You cannot be faulted for past experiences (parental upbringing, toxic relationships, friendships) causing anxiousness in some elements of your life. However, those experiences may lead to you missing out on love, friendships, jobs, business ventures, and much more, and that is not how anyone should live. Just because those negative experiences have caused you to be wary does not mean nothing can be done to reverse or improve them. This is one of the beautiful aspects of the human brain, it’s capability to adapt to new experiences also known as brain plasticity. 



There is a ratio which states that for every one terrible experience; it takes five positive ones for you to outweigh the bad. The exact amount of positive ones is still being debated, and studies show it depends on the intensity of the negative experience. Nonetheless, how do you expect to outweigh the negative ones if you keep playing damage control in your life? If you keep holding yourself back? Expecting the worst? Continually living the "what if's" or "because this happened before, I have to miss out on something good because I have now become paranoid of other people's intentions?" Is that a life where you can thrive? 

  True, it is challenging and easier said than done in a blog. It takes time, but you can start anytime, anywhere. It is essential to begin to live a thriving life and #GetWell, especially when it comes to intimate relationships or business. Don’t let your fear of bad things happening prevent you from living a thriving life. It is normal to proceed with caution, but it is vital to acknowledge where that caution is coming from, and if the ways with which you proceed with caution negatively influence your life.  

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